UPDATE: See How to cancel eHarmony for updated and expanded information.
Ah you’re sick of it, huh? I can’t blame you. 
Furthermore, closing your account is far, far easier than closing your matches individually when you want nothing to do with eHarmony anymore. Really I can’t blame you. Here’s the procedure: The official link to delete your account in eHarmony is (you must be signed in):
US http://www.eharmony.com/singles/servlet/user/myaccount/close
CANADA http://www.eharmony.ca/singles/servlet/user/myaccount/close
AUSTRALIA http://www.eharmony.com.au/singles/servlet/user/myaccount/close
UK http://www.eharmony.co.uk/singles/servlet/user/myaccount/close
Compatible Partners http://www.compatiblepartners.net/singles/servlet/user/myaccount/close
This link is accessible by clicking My Settings > Account Settings > Close account. Because eHarmony cares about our happiness, and not just retain another bit in its database, eHarmony will try to change your mind with the following screen:
Account Information
You are about to close your eHarmony.com account. This will permanently close all of your existing matches, and disable the My Matches page.
If you are closing your account because you’ve met a special person to share your life, on eHarmony or elsewhere, congratulations. If you haven’t yet made that connection, I’d like you to consider the following points:
- Research shows only 1 in 4 American marriages are actually happy.
- Choosing the right mate is the KEY to creating a compatible, loving relationship.
- Finding a soul mate on your own and knowing if you’re really compatible has never been more confusing or difficult.
- eHarmony’s proven method of selecting compatible matches has helped create thousands of happy, successful relationships.
There are two additional, important points you should know as you search for a special relationship.
First, if you haven’t experienced the success you anticipated with eHarmony, there are probably adjustments that can be made to your account to help make your experience more productive. But in order to help, we need to know what’s wrong.
At the bottom of this page is a HELP link . By clicking on this link and sharing your problem with us, we can work with you to improve your results. We only ask that you wait until you hear from us before continuing to close your account.
Lastly, we really care about your success. There are thousands of online dating services that will offer up hundreds of “matches” based on little more than your favorite hobby. Our goal is completely different. We’re helping you find someone to live with and love FOREVER! We think it is important that people are matched for the right reasons and we want to see you benefit from our approach, as so many others have.
eHarmony isn’t magic. But every day we’re working to address the needs of our members. Chances are we can make eHarmony work for you.
(By the way, the “adjustments” mentioned here can mean retaking the test.)
Account Information
This page will allow you to close your eHarmony account automatically. When you click on the CLOSE button below you will be removed from our matching database and automatic email system. You will also permanently lose any matches you may currently have.
Account Information
In a few moments, you will receive an email from eHarmony containing instructions on how to complete the closure of your account. If you have additional questions about your account, you can email Customer Care from the Contact Us page.
So click «Close» twice and you’re gone FOREVER!! In theory, all your personal information is erased from the eH servers. You cannot reopen the account. You and your messages disappear in your present matches’ screens and you receive no more crazy emails. Your login and password stops working and the email address you used is permanently banned from registering or retaking the test.
How to stop receiving eHarmony emails? Give a fake address.
Will your information disappear from the member count and when they cross-analyse their profiling database? Honestly speaking I doubt it. Will you receive no more emails? We found unconfirmed reports (such as this) that say otherwise. What you can do further, if you want, is to change your email address on the eHarmony system first to a dummy address. Even further, if you want, is to blank all your About Me answers and your Account Setting details, overwrite your credit card with a fake yet valid number, and thoroughly restrict your match settings, and change your location to China. It’s up to you.
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