Today we have advice coming from Dorchester, TX:
Well, having gone 7 months with no matches and now having received 25 matches in a month, I have a few pointers which I have gleaned from my actual eHarmony experience for any young ladies looking to meet an attractive, smart, successful, funny, charming future doctor.
- AIM slang is not appropriate nor attractive when you use it in your profile. Example: LoL does not make me think, “Oh this girl has a good sense of humor.” No, it makes me think, “this girl must spend a lot of time on AIM which can only mean that it is the only way by which people are willing to communicate with her.”
- Being 21 and already having a child is not an effective way to get a guy who has specified abstinence as a “must have.”
- While honesty is appreciated, stating in your “about me” section that you are a “big girl from a big family” is not the way to attract a guy who considers any girl with a BMI more then half of his own BMI overweight.
- When listing the things you “cannot live without” do not take it seriously. I’m not 3 years old. I already know that air, water, food, and sleep are required for sustaining life. Also, it is not attractive to list your cell phone, car, and iPod. While this may be true, it just makes you out to be clingy, superficial and retarded.
- Do not list “Cooking for your family” as an important life skill. … Shake and Bake, Arby’s, and Stouffers do not count as cooking. Plus, judging by the number of girls my age I know, half of the 15 who listed this particular skill are lying and another 5 or 6 have to call their mom (or me) to know how to cook something without a recipe.
- When answering the question “what do you like to do during your leisure time” do not start your response with “Well, I am so busy that I don’t have free time.” Well, great! That means you will just have so much time to pursue a relationship. Wrong! … Saying you have no free time may also be an indicator of your overall inability to accomplish things in a reasonable time frame.
- Finally, if a guy decides to close a match because he is “currently taking a break from dating,” he is taking a break from you. Unless he is dating someone, a guy is never on a “break” from dating. He’s always ready except for the 2 minutes it takes to read your profile and figure out that you aren’t “compatible.”
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