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A guy hits his breaking point in his eHarmony experience:
So, I’ve been on eHarmony since around March of this year. Slightly pathetic I know, but it’s getting increasingly difficult to meet anyone … pure and simple.
I’ve often thought about writing about my experiences with eHarmony, and I’ve always thought better of it because it’s kinda private, and there isn’t just me involved. I know that I wouldn’t like anyone writing about me in a blog, so in turn I didn’t want to do the same thing, because it’s mean.
However, I sort of reached a breaking point last night with the concept of eHarmony’s “29 points of compatibility” and the premise that they carefully match people based on this long assed profile that you have to fill in before you’re included in their database.
My question is, how much of this is true… let’s look at the stats…
Take me for example, since March, I’ve been matched with exactly 700 women
I’ve communicated openly with 31 of them (email and or phone)
Out of those, I met with 5 …
3 of those I don’t want to see again for various reasons, 1 of them was very nice but we just didn’t click, and there’s another 1 who I would like to see again but I think she isn’t feeling it the same way, which is fine, it happens … we still keep in touch because you can never have too many friends.
So, really … I would say that out of 700 attempts, eHarmony was successful with 2 from my point of view. Now there are probably many women in their database who I would hit it off with, but they either found something better elsewhere, or let their subscriptions expire, or just weren’t interested.
Anyway, I digress … the real reason for me writing about this happened last night …
eHarmony allows it’s members to hide their photos until later stages of communication, which was this case with this particular woman I was speaking with.
The thing is with the whole process is that you tend to become jaded, and go through the motions with small talk like “what do you do in your spare time”, “what’s your favorite food”, blah blah blah so you don’t really pay attention until open communication is reached.
Well it was at this stage where my ‘match’ decided she was going to let me see what she looked like …
Oh … Sister Mary Frances! Read the rest of his post
Giles and I have similar results. He met 2 (so far) out of 31 (email or phone) out of 700 matches over 7 months. I met 5 (so far) out of 18 (email or phone) out of 470 matches over 3 months. I also turned into a eHarmony responding robot.
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