So this is what a Final Message looks like:
First, this email:
Dear eHarmony Blog,
At some point in the past you decided to close your match, Jan from Anytown, USA. Jan has taken advantage of an opportunity to send you this message:
- I really felt that we had potential. I’d like you to reconsider.
You may re-open this match by going to your Closed Matches page and clicking “Re-Open” next to Jan’s name. If you would like to keep this match closed, you do not need to do anything.
If we can be of any assistance, visit our Help center.
Indeed the match is still on the Closed Matches trash pile. I clicked to view it, and read this:
On March 14 2007, 09:47PM PT you closed this match for the following reason(s):
- Based on statements in their profile, I’m not interested in this match.
Jan has requested that this match be re-opened for the following reason:
- I really felt that we had potential. I’d like you to reconsider.
You are under no obligation to respond to this request, but if your thoughts about Jan have changed, even in the smallest amount, we strongly suggest you re-open this match and pursue further communication. You will always have an opportunity at any point during communication to close this match again.
[Re-open] [Cancel]
Hmm. The wording isn’t half-bad, I think.

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