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I’m deployed in Iraq, how do I cancel my account and get a refund?

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I am a deployed army reservist and have tried canceling my account. I in fact forgot about this and spent 6 months in Iraq before noticing I was being billed. I have had only one response from eharmony who will not confirm that my account is cancelled and asking me to call. I also asked for a refund for the prior three months, but no answer to that either. I have been emailing the usernet email….any help?

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Q&A: Joining eharmony from outside north america?

Barton asks

i want to join eharmony from the middle east…
will they even allow me to join?
will i receive any matches considering the fact they match people by compatibility or will i be left all alone because i live so far?

Answer:

eHarmony claims to have registrants in 200 countries, and given that the United Nations only has 192 member nations, I’d say there’s a good chance that eHarmony has profiles in your country.

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  • Fernando Ardenghi wrote

    eHarmony uses: 1) normative Big5 test to assess personality. *** eHarmony U.S. The test should be in English for the United States and the Norm for the United States (sample of individuals with the same demographic characteristics of the United States). *** eHarmony Canada The test shoul …

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How do you focus your settings to prevent so many bad matches? What questions do you ask to determine whether a “match” will disappear at you?

How do you focus your settings to prevent so many bad matches? I thought I had focused my interest in women who actually danced, rather than said they did, liked to do mountain hiking and do adventure travel rather than said they thought they might want to. Apparently, the eHarmony database engine just does keyword matches so any woman who puts “dancing” or walking or hiking in her profile is sent to me. I have spent dozens of hours reading and closing more than 250 “matches” during the past 3 months; how can I prevent that and increase the probability of receiving more compatible matches?

How can I set preferences to avoid receiving so many matches in my inbox at once–10-15 a day are too many to cope with?

To be frank, how can I set my preferences or settings to avoid receiving matches from unattractive, overweight women with whom I have nothing in common?

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  • Elizabeth R wrote

    What I can add is that Customer Service can tweak certain scores in your questionnaire results. I suggest that you contact them, tell them that you're getting ladies who are physically inactive and ask them to max your athleticism score, or something like that. This ought to help you get matched to …

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How to tell who are inactive members (The Complete List)

Inactive members…

  • answered exactly five About Me questions:
    1. What are you most passionate about?
    2. What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?
    3. Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
    4. What are three of your BEST life-skills?
    5. The four things your friends say about you are:
  • have no photos.
  • have no RelyID. (Having RelyID means they once joined.)
  • have no Premium Personality Profile badge.
  • never move up in your My Matches list when you “sort by Recent Activity”.
  • never switch from “Introduction” to “1 2 3 4 OPEN” when you’re doing the “Let them view you first” trick.
  • never show up in your “Who Has Viewed Me” list, even after you sent communication.
  • never show up in your “Match Updates” list.
  • never respond to communication or close the match.
  • have their email address hidden in their profile.
  • have profiles that tell you to contact them in Facebook.

How long should I wait for them to join?

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  • annoymous1 wrote

    What get me is they let these free loaders get on their site and other who have paid get bumped, dumped whatever without due process. Toward the end when I was aboard there were men who they match me up with who never looked at my profile. I guess those were free loaders. I probably will get on a …

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How-to tips from Stacie and Marcelo

M&S2

From the official blog, dated 1 December 2009:

Meet success couple Stacie and Marcelo. As experienced users of eHarmony, they’re happy to provide their advice to others who are currently using or thinking about trying the service.

Stacie was on eHarmony for over a year, and Marcelo used it on and off over a period of seven years. So sometimes, patience is the name of the game. As Stacie says, it just takes one!

Perseverance paid off for these two, who are now engaged to be married on December 23, 2009—the anniversary of their match date. We give them our heartfelt wishes for a wonderful life together!

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I made 3 dummy male profiles and eHarmony sent them all to me as matches!

I joined eHarmony in March and signed up for a six month membership. After getting numerous matches I was not compatible with, I began to question their personality matching. I set aside an afternoon to sign up as a male member making up three very unique profiles. To my amazement, every time I submitted the last portion of the test, I immediately received an email notification from eHarmony stating that I had a new match! They’re basically setting members up with ALL possible matches so membership numbers aren’t as high as I initially believed they would be based on what was available to me (and I live in Houston with settings in several states). I felt like a fool once I got the truth but there were a couple of nice guys I met so the site has some positives.

If you’re still set on giving eHarmony a try, I suggest you get an account on BigCrumbs.com where they will refund 58.5% of your membership through Paypal. Combine that with a good promo code and you’ve got the best deal in town:) Good Luck!